Wednesday, September 16, 2009

"Playing on a perceived obligation"

"...But sometimes you find yourself in a situation where the guilt factor is really high, or someone plays on a relationship or a perceived obligation, and it's hard to escape without seeming rude." from this post.

The fantastic essay is about something else, but this phrase reminded me of people who are masters of this move. Even he or she is just a friend of a cousin's friend of the friend of a relative, and you've shaken hands and talked with for 3 seconds, on a baptism you were obliged to attend, when that master approaches you for a favor, it seems your a fucking ingrate if you say you have no time, or even say you are not the right person to approach.

Like that person youve met in one drinking spree, then the following day gets to your office, sits at your table, and ask you to get her a job in the company.

These people look you in the eye, and do not leave until you say yes.

Best solution against these sorts? Avoid. Dont even shake hands or say hi. If it so happen that you must meet, or you suddenly meet somewhere, then hust nod. Say the fewest words possible, then leave. Be proactive in avoiding contact.

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